The Kiss of Death: Killing Bad Habits for Good
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Most people say they want to change.
They want to feel better, live healthier, be more confident.
But the truth?
They don’t want to kill the habits that are killing their progress.
They’d rather cover it up. Pretend they’ll quit “someday.” Wait for motivation.
But if you’re reading this, you’re ready for the real talk.
You’re ready to give those habits the Kiss of Death.
Because if you don’t end them—they’ll keep ending your goals.
What Is the Kiss of Death?
It’s my way of saying: stop playing around and end it for good.
No halfway measures.
No someday.
No “I’ll try.”
The Kiss of Death is the moment you decide: This habit is done.
You bury it.
You move forward.
Why You Haven’t Killed It Yet
Here’s the truth:
Ending bad habits isn’t fun.
It’s uncomfortable. It’s scary.
And honestly?
Bad habits feel safe.
They’re familiar. Predictable. They’re the coping mechanism you know.
Most people don’t fail because they’re incapable.
They fail because they’re too comfortable staying the same.
5 Signs You’re Not Really Ready to Change
Want to test yourself?
Here are five signs you’re not actually ready to quit:
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You keep saying “someday.”
If you won’t commit to today, you’re not serious. -
You minimize the problem.
Telling yourself “It’s not that bad” keeps you stuck. -
You blame everything else.
“I’ll change when work slows down.” “I just have too much going on.” -
You quit after one setback.
If you plan to be perfect, you’ll fail the first time it’s hard. -
You keep people around who enable you.
Friends who say “It’s fine!” instead of holding you accountable.
If any of these sound like you, don’t beat yourself up.
But don’t lie about it, either.
Why You Need to Kill the Habit Now
Because it’s costing you every single day.
Your time.
Your energy.
Your health.
Your confidence.
It’s the weight in your backpack you keep refusing to drop.
If you want a better life, you can’t keep feeding what’s killing you.
How to Actually Kill a Bad Habit
Here’s the truth you need to hear:
You won’t quit just because you “feel like it.”
You need a plan.
1. Name It Clearly
Stop being vague.
What exactly do you need to end?
Say it out loud. Write it down.
2. Identify Your Triggers
Bad habits don’t just happen.
They’re a response to something.
Stress, boredom, loneliness, anger.
What sets you off?
3. Choose a Replacement
You can’t just stop.
You have to replace.
If you remove the habit without a new plan, you’ll go right back.
Example replacements:
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Call a friend instead of scrolling.
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Journal instead of stress eating.
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Meditate instead of spiraling.
4. Make Accountability Non-Negotiable
Tell someone.
Write it down.
Track it.
Remind yourself daily.
If no one knows your plan, it’s too easy to quit.
5. Prepare for Setbacks
You will slip up.
That doesn’t mean you failed.
It means you’re human.
The question is—will you get back on track?
My Challenge to You
Pick one habit.
Just one.
This week:
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Name it.
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Plan for it.
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Replace it.
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Tell someone.
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Track it.
Don’t wait for perfect. Don’t wait for motivation.
You deserve better than staying stuck.
It’s time to give that habit the Kiss of Death.
If you’re ready to do the real work, stick around.